A relationship columnist in the Dominican Republic is advising people whose partners engage in virtual intimate encounters to stop searching through their devices and start a direct conversation instead.
Ana Simo, a psychologist and sexual therapist who leads the Centro Vida y Familia Ana Simo, responded in her column to a reader who said she found her husband conducting video calls with other adults, self-stimulating, and recording himself, while also watching pornography late into the night.
Simo said the reader had enough reason to feel desperate, explaining that the situation was not simply about a partner choosing to be alone. Because other people were involved, even through a screen, it carried a different weight.
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She advised the reader to speak with her husband about how badly his behavior had made her feel, and to focus on the discomfort his actions caused her rather than making it a confrontation.
Simo warned that the husband might try to minimize things, arguing that the behavior was harmless, that he did not know the women involved, or that he was at least staying at home rather than meeting someone in person.
She said these behaviors worsen if left unaddressed, and encouraged the reader to seek professional help, expressing hope that her husband would attend as well. The decision to act, Simo said, rested with the reader, not with her husband.
