She may have forgiven him, but she will never forget. After learning that Mr husband was in a long-term relationship, a woman shares the reasons why she decided to stay in her marriage.
Alexandrea Acevedo, 26, was shocked to discover that her husband of five years, Michael, was unfaithful for most of their marriage—and all thanks to a simple text message.
He happened to take a look at the message from his mistress in December and it led to her 31-year-old partner’s confession.
“I looked through his phone – which I don’t usually do – and I found a message saying something like, ‘Why do you think he’s going to find out?'” he told the South West News Service. “That was enough to deal with him.”
After a long, sleepless night, the distraught mother of three asked the love of her life for honesty. At first, he tried to convince her that it was just something friendly. Only the next morning did he reveal the truth.
“In the beginning there was a lot of anger and pain, a lot of emotions and I’ve always said that infidelity for me is what would break us up and he knew that,” she said. “We were fighting a lot and I really had to get the truth out of him and when he told me the truth I asked him to leave immediately.”
The 3.5-year-long betrayal hurt – Alexandrea “always spoke highly of him”, so discovering his infidelity was “heartbreaking”.
But the confrontation seemed to lead to a complete change in Michael’s life. He confessed that he had spent a lot of time drinking and gambling. He was “determined” to fix things in their marriage, Alexandrea said, turning to Alcoholics Anonymous and treatment instead of choosing the easy solution of divorce. He realized he “had to do better.”
“I didn’t think I could do any better and my situation – with all these other things, like drinking – wasn’t good,” explained Michael, who felt like “absolute rubbish”. “But one night I almost got drunk to death and suddenly I had a moment where I wanted to sacrifice everything.”
“It’s definitely my biggest regret or the biggest mistake I’ve ever made and it’s something I’ll regret for a long time – if not forever,” he added.
For eight or nine days, Alexandrea went through a “cycle of crazy emotions” – sadness, pain, anger, confusion, but, ultimately, optimism. She talked to her friends and family, and consulted many self-help books, realizing that the fault was not hers.
“To get to where I am now, I just stopped finding fault with myself and him and stopped looking for reasons to feel bad about the situation and started looking for reasons to feel good,” she said, adding that it was difficult to hear more details about the relationship.
She acknowledged when her husband, whom she married in 2018, began to put in more effort and said it began to “soften” her. “He did everything to find us,” she admitted, saying the pair are now “talking.”
“I have moments of weakness, moments when I think he’s been lying to me for so long and what’s stopping him from doing it again?”, he added. “But he doesn’t want to give up, and he tells me that if I give him a chance every day, he’ll keep proving to me that he’s here.”
She said she didn’t want to ‘abandon him in his darkest hour’highlighting his impeccable role as a father and husband, with the exception of his infidelity.
“When I found out about the alcohol and the relationship, I was just shocked and it made me think that he really needed someone,” she said.
And while the events that led to the devastating revelations weren’t ideal, Alexandrea is trying to “do her best.” Now, they try to mend their broken marriage as Alexandrea urges her husband to turn the page.
“I’m sure there were better ways to get to a better place, but here we are now,” Michael said, explaining how “receptive” his wife was. “I’m as grateful as anyone can be for a second chance.”
However, not everyone has the same understanding as Alexandrea, who received online criticism from strangers, according to SWNS.
“I couldn’t do it, even if he only kisses another woman, he’s gone. Trust is broken,” one commented.
“3.5 years? I would feel like he was a stranger,” another remarked.
Others, however, agreed with Alexandrea that she made the right choice, saying that they have been through the same thing, assuring that the problems will eventually be solved.
Source: News Beast
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