Ilary Blasi and the revelations in Unica: coffee with another man, Totti’s machismo, the investigator, the confirmation about Noemi Bocchi

The day of Ilary Blasi’s version has arrived. The documentary Unique, starting today on Netflix, “let’s spill the beans” from the point of view of her and her women (family members, friends) on the marriage with Francesco Totti and above all at the end, betrayal chapters and Noemi Bocchi included. The Tottis are described as, after all, they were: “our royal family, the first VIP wedding broadcast on TV”. The king and queen of Rome, in short. So much so that, when it was finished, says Ilary «he even wrote about it New York Times».

Why did Ilary Blasi decide to clarify? “I’m used to false statements, now I’m telling my truth.” There is no contradiction in Uniqueit’s true, nor uncomfortable questions. There is only her story and that of her magic circle, but the presenter opens up a lot. She cries, jokes, shows herself. She starts from the story of twenty years together: «We have never had any big arguments, I don’t remember them in twenty years, there has always been a peaceful relationship. And yes”, says the presenter, “We had sex regularly, even more than a couple who has been together for twenty years.” We move on to the dark period, Ilary makes it start in autumn 2021: «Francesco is starting to change. He becomes a dark husband, who often went out, angry, in short, a different man.” Ilary asks for explanations: «He didn’t give me answers, after a while I started to perceive that he was a bit angry with me, but I don’t understand why. Only vague and confused answers come from him.” We arrive in January 2022 when Totti corners his wife and friend Alessia: «We are in a club, he asks us to follow him, he takes my phone, goes to Instagram and opens a boy’s profile. He asks us: “Have you ever met him?”. We immediately say no, but it was a lie.”

Totti has always known this and from there, explains Ilary, the disaster began. «He keeps repeating a particular date, October 11th. Only later did I understand that he had found an exchange of messages, between me and Alessia, that we had heard from this boy and we had agreed to go for a coffee”. From there Ilary understands the change in her husband, but doesn’t understand it: «I understand that he may have felt cheated, I understand the jealousy, the fact of having betrayed his trust, but in 20 years I had never given him a reason to to doubt”. Unlike the former footballer, Ilary concludes: «For once in 20 years it had to be him who believed me, given that I had always been the one who had to trust him, even at the time of Fabrizio Corona and the rumors about Flavia Vento, before the our wedding. After all, it wasn’t as if he had opened the door and seen me in bed with someone else. He simply had to trust me.”

Totti’s response freezes Ilary: «He tells me “I don’t know how you’ve done it over the years, I’m not as good as you. I can’t get that coffee out of my head.” From there there is a succession of feelings of guilt that he makes me feel continuously.” THEAt this point the thread of the documentary goes back, Ilary Blasi talks about the first meeting, the courtship, the marriage, the children. At this point the presenter faces another difficult moment, Totti’s withdrawal from the world of football: «Afterwards he stayed on the sofa for days watching TV on a loop», Ilary remembers and cries, she is moved. «But from there he slowly surprised me», he continues, «He had arrived at that day full of anxieties, emotions, fears and anger, and now it seemed to me that he was slowly regaining a bit of serenity, that he accepted the beginning of a new life.” While the Captain retires at 40, Ilary Blasi’s career takes off, one Mediaset show after another. One success after another. The covers arrive, the spotlight especially on her.

Then comes a date: February 2022, when Dagospia writes that the marriage between the two is practically over. The next day, she continues to remember Ilary, «the name of comes out Noemi Bocchi». It’s still: «All the newspapers assume that Francesco has cheated on her. And you think: “my goodness, people are so bad”. It immediately seemed like a hoax to me.” After a while, however, the photo arrives at the Olimpico. He tours Italy, it’s from months earlier: Totti is sitting in the stadium, Noemi behind him.” But at home with his wife, the former footballer denies it. He continues to deny it, forcefully: «Swear in front of me and in front of the children». Ilary’s version continues. A photo of him in Monte Carlo pops up, inside a jacuzzi. From behind, there is a blonde woman. Once again Totti rejects all the accusations.

We are at the end of June. The presenter’s first suspicions begin when Totti takes his youngest daughter out for lunch and she returns home with new toys: «He tells me that they are gifts, that he has met new children. I ask her their names, at which point I remember that Noemi had children. I put two and two together, I ask around for the children’s names. Everything coincides.” The castle collapses but Totti continues to deny it. Ilary thus reveals that he can only do one thing: «I wanted to see with my own eyes and I wanted proof, because Francesco would never have admitted it. On July 2nd he says he has a dinner. I find the house where the girl lived (Ilary continues to call her that, ed.), a friend and I arrive and the car was parked. I took a photo of the car, but I didn’t say anything.”

To get new evidence and confirmation of her husband’s cheating, she turns to a private investigator. «But the investigator gets caught, we’re at a tragicomic scene», she explains, «so Francesco knows that I know. And to think that the night before he had sought me out sexually and I had obviously avoided him. He still doesn’t admit, I tell him: “I just know everything.” I corner him, he finally admits it but talks about it as a light relationship: he was good at talking bullshit”. But Ilary doesn’t accept it: «she was a strong humiliation, as a woman and as a mother».

End of the story: «I married Francesco Totti for love, not for money», he had said at the beginning. But, as we know well, there are very few fairy tales in reality. The rest is history: the separation, the mutual accusations, the rolexes, the bags, the new companions. Ilary Blasi recently shared photos via social media with new teammate Bastian Muller, they celebrate their first anniversary together. What seems evident is that from this version, that of Ilary Blasi and the women in his life, Francesco Totti comes out very badly. There is a passage, the darkest, in which the presenter recalls her husband’s “conditions” in order to overlook the coffee lie: “I must never see my friend Alessia again, I must unsubscribe from social media, change my number and stop working». In short, the manifesto of patriarchy and toxic love. Revelations that Totti would have the duty to explain, or rather to deny and cancel. But Ilary immediately replies on video: «I told him “Francesco, you are asking me to choose between you and myself, and I have no doubts, I choose me”. Trust cannot be regained like this.”

Meanwhile Unique, inevitable mockery quote on the shirt of his first goal dedicated to her, it ends with a joke that shows all the irony of Ilary Blasi: «Would you take this coffee back Ilary?», a voice off-screen tells her. “Of course, and at this point I would even do something else.”