I hid shopping for years. And here’s what I learned (on my freedom) now that I stopped doing it

Stop hide shopping It is not just a gesture of revenge and emancipation: it is a bit like breaking a karmic cycle that, for one reason or another, risks becoming a habit that continues to repeat itself. First in the family, then with the partner.

The first time I hid shopping – or rather, bought something hidden And then tried to hide it within the home – I was thirteen. It was the 2000s and I gave myself with a little savings a couple of wonderful denim sandals that my mother had not wanted to buy me. A wedge too high – she said – for a (high) girl like me. Who knows that my relationship with thefinancial intimacy It hasn’t started at that age. Twenty -one years ago, I could have already kept on the 66% of Italians who today, according to a recent Klarna report, hides personal expenses from partners For fear of triggering discussions.

The truth, all the truth, on shopping: in boutiques, online, at the market … all the pros and cons. And which one do you prefer?

There are those who prefer to buy online, without haste and without chaos. There are those who still gladly go in stores: they want to try clothes. And then there are those who hunt on the pre-Loved platforms, those who bleed in the markets and those who rely on personal shopping. But what are – really – the pros and cons of all these different purchasing experiences?

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But the fear of a quarrel For too much purchase it is not the only alibi that often leads to hiding shopping. There is also a 27% that hides it for embarrassment or shame. A embarrassment that I had to learn to free myself firsthand. Indeed, liberating was to understand that the sense of shame that induced me to hide the shopping did not belong to me, but to A partner not inclined to appreciate my personal purchases. Once niche niche, once disdained, the time after even no more sharing of my shopping.

Maybe I just tried someone capable of trying my own euphoria in front of a pair of manolo Blahnik pre-locoved bought at a torn price? Maybe I only tried someone capable of perceiving my own satisfaction in front of a vivacité bag by Louis Vuitton contracted up to the latest blood? Or I was just colliding with A male model that unconsciously did not recognize the freedom of female purchasing power?

I hid shopping for years. And that's what I learned now that I stopped doing it
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When it comes to financial intimacy, the fashion category is that stained by a perennial sense of guilt. A who knows what original sin, which occurred in who knows what shopping paradise. A recent report also demonstrated this Circuitplatform specialized in logistics of international purchases: from a survey carried out on 1049 Americans, it appears that clothing is the category most touched by the phenomenon. 27% of hidden purchases are dressedwhich follow 21% of beauty products, 13% of shoes and 9% of jewelry.

And then there is to imagine them – clothes, beauty products, shoes and jewels – to disappearly unnoticed in an apartment (fundamental, for me, to get rid of the designer bags) and then triumph at the first outfit on duty, accompanied by the great quote: “New? Oh no, I hadn’t worn it for a while ». A really too anachronistic fiction, sometimes even harmful. In short, a trap in which I also fell. Because beyond the reasonable choice to spend according to the priorities of a domestic nucleus (if not even familiar), it would also be the case not to forget the generations and generations of women who have fought behind us for the economic emancipation of today’s women.

I hid shopping for years. And that's what I learned now that I stopped doing it
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Nevertheless, In the United States, the percentage of people who would hide a purchase from their partner in the last year would amount to 64%only 2% less than Italy. A common phenomenon? There is also another face of the medal, which is the emotional implication that affects trust: One American out of four considers this behavior equal to a micro-translation. Honesty, first of all. Passing my hand on the conscience for all the times I have hidden shopping, no, I don’t feel like a traitor. Rather, I re-observe with tenderness, perhaps even a pinch of compassion. And I just say: «Be proud of what you earn. Be aware of what you buy ».

Source: Vanity Fair

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