A daughter is the drama of a family in which the unthinkable can take place (and for this reason it reminds us of teenagers)

A daughterthe new film by Ivano de Matteoarrives in the wake of the phenomenon TeenagenceNetflix miniseries that has shaken the public of every part of the world, as well as rekindling public opinion on the education of the youngest, in a historical moment particularly characterized by social and online violence that leads to tragic results. Although the work, written together with Valentina Ferlan e freely inspired by the novel Whatever happens By Ciro Noja, he devoted himself by nationality and issues from the platform product, it is a red thread that tie the two stories.

If on the one hand there is a thirteen -year -old who has stabbed a schoolmate of his under probably the influence of the Machist and patriarchal culture that you can breathe in the manosphere, on the other the De Matteo film sees The protagonist Sofia – played by Geneva Francesconi – make an extreme and irreversible gesture in the grip of a moment of anger and confusion, caused by a loss that has not been able to elaborate. In both cases And the inability to know how to manage one’s emotions to mark fatal destinies. Both in the miniseries and in the film it is not the investigation of the faults or the causes that are found, it is rather accompany the characters on a path of acceptance and understanding which can sometimes be as lacerating as (although not more) what has been committed. Not looking for apologies or solutions, but by taking a path of analysis with lucidity.

What parents do you decide to be?

A daughterjust like Teenagencedoes not stop at the condition and mood of its young protagonists, but expands the spectrum of feelings and suffering also suffered by who they are around them. In both products Parents are not represented as oppressive or violent figures, nor absent or indifference. They are people like many, since this is exactly the strongest pain that the two stories want to transmit: to make it clear that, as far as we can believe that certain events or behaviors do not concern us, in reality what happens can happen to everyone, how and when you don’t expect it.

Something that hurts precisely because it is unexpectedWhy He believed he was good at raising his childrennot considering that soon they are completely unexpected roads those that the latter can end up embarking on, and that it is exactly in those even more difficult and difficult brackets that you have to decide which side you want to be and, above all, what parents you want to be. If you choose to throw the sponge, to deny someone or something, or persevere and try to try that love that for a child should always be unconditional.

Forgive or not forgive?

In Teenagence The characters of Stephen Graham and Christine Tremarco they ask themselves about the role they played in the murder carried out by the thirteen -year -old sonwho are not responsible for it, but at the same time they are the same ones who have put it in the world. Is what he has to face Stefano Accorsi in A daughter In the role of his father Pietro, who, exactly like Francesconi’s character, has a central role in Ivano De Matteo’s film. Probe a emotion that oscillates From being a parent to being simply a mandig within yourself to understand how much you will be able to forgive that one daughter or if it is better to remain distant and detached, living in solitude and bewilder the continuous losses in front of which it forces life.

Neither De Matteo’s film nor the Netflix show want to be dogmatic. And it is here that both risk: they do not give any comfort, no real explanation or resolution to the protagonists. All that remains is to listen, try to understand, go on. And forgiveness, perhaps, sooner or later it will be able to arrive.